goleman 2 types of focus

Just one thing : 22 Find strengths

Strength comes in many forms, including endurance, losing on the little things in order to win on the big ones, in order to win on the big ones and restraint.

How

Mental strength draws on physical strength. ...
Exercising several times a week ...
Sleep....
Make a list of your strengths:  such as intelligence, deep introspective and analytical capacity, pure kindness, extremely trusting of people, divorce survivor, changing countries, flying to different countries... surviving in different countries, holding my ground when needed.
Recall times when you felt strong (like standing up for yourself, long solo runs or bikes, leaving the monkey mind for something useful., choosing not to eat junk, choosing not to take more than one needs... .. )
"the winds of live can blow and blow hard, but you are one deeply rotter tree and in the long run the winds will only make you stronger as they force you to adapt... and after those are done blown you offer shade shelter, flower and fruit"....
 

Week 2 2014

Non-stop is not always better

At least when it is about quality

I am like my mom...

to a great degree.
all those years disgagreeing with my mom...thinking when am her age...blah blah
the circle is closed
I have traits from her in me. I can recognize them now.
The universe at work. What I disagreed with , can't even remember now, I must carry within.


 

Gym(nasiums) in the USA, SouthAmerica, and Europe

The name comes from the Ancient Greek term gymnós meaning "naked" (From wikipedia)

How much can you deduce from the culture in a gymnasium where showers are private, semi private , or shared?
Where changing rooms are again private, semi private or non existent at all?

I find it fascinating to even start to understand all of these nuances in different countries and how my own comfort level has changed.

Beautiful people in Colombia in very proper and private locking rooms for females, same as in Peru. Private showers in both countries.
UK already semi private, same as in South Germany where I visited some years ago, and finally Finland where showers have no  divisions really one big space.

Not to mention what women carry. In Finland one extreme, as little as possible it seems, in Lima you can see women dragging around a carry on.

Comfortable with nudity. Or not. how much. how come. I am with the Fins ....

Groundlessness

All day 100% pure - Groundlessness.

It is like watching yourself in the mirror -and not recognizing yourself fully.

Because we were looking at objects, and identifying with them. 

As Pema would say  these moments are like messengers that show us, with terrifying clarity, exactly where we’re stuck.

There is a lot of space. There is much less to hold on to.

An Oh-S**t moment is the closest relative to an Aha-moment

It is.
There is a realization.The sudden truth.

AND you are already propelled the other way.
It is then called an Oh-s**t moment.

Or so I think.